فِتنَةُ الوَلَدِ The Trial of Having a Child

4. رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى  اللهُ  عَلَيه  وَ آلِهِ: أولادُنا أكبادُنا، صُغَراؤهُم اُمَراؤنا، وكُبَراؤهُم أعداؤنا، فإن عاشُوا فتَنُونا، وإن ماتُوا أحزَنُونا.

4. The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Our children are our hearts, the younger ones from among them are our kings and the older ones our enemies. When they are alive they test us and when they die they make us grieve.’[Jami` al-Akhbar, p. 284, no. 758]

 

5. رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى  اللهُ  عَلَيه  وَ آلِهِ: الوَلَدُ مَجبَنَةٌ مَنحَلَةٌ مَحزَنَةٌ.

5. The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘A child is [a source of] cowardice, weakness and sorrow [for the parent].’[Jami` al-Akhbar, p. 284, no. 758]

 

6. الإمامُ عليٌّ عَلَيهِ السَّلامُ: لا تَجعَلَنَّ أكثَرَ شُغُلِكَ بأهلِكَ ووَلَدِكَ؛ فإن يَكُن أهلُكَ ووَلَدُكَ أولياءَ اللّه، فإنَّ اللّه  لا يُضِيعُ أولياءهُ، وإن يَكُونوا أعداءَ اللّه فما هَمُّكَ وشُغُلُكَ بأعداءِ اللّه؟!.

6. Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘Do not let most of your preoccupation be with your family and children, for if your family and children are lovers of Allah, Allah does not forget His lovers, and if they are the enemies of Allah, then what is your concern and preoccupation with the enemies of Allah?!’[Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 352]