ذمُّ التَّغايُرِ في غيرِ مَوضِعِ الغَيرةِ Censure of Being Jealous or Overpossessive Over One Another in the Wrong Situation

9ـ رسولُ اللهِ‏ِ (صَلَّيَ اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَ آلِهِ): مِن الغَيرَةِ مايُحِبُّ اللّه‏ُ، ومِنها ما يَكرَهُ اللّه‏ُ، فأمّا مايُحِبُّ فالغَيرَةُ فِي الرِّيبةِ، وأمّا ما يَكرَهُ فالغَيرَةُ في غيرِ الرِّيبةِ.

9– The Messenger of Allah (AS) said, ‘There is possessiveness that Allah likes, and possessiveness that Allah dislikes. That which He likes is the possessiveness during doubt or misgiving [about one’s wife], and the [over]possessiveness He dislikes is in a situation where there is no [reason to] doubt.’[Kanz al-`Ummal, no. 7067]
 

10ـ الإمامُ عليٌّ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ) ـ في وصيَّتِهِ لابنِهِ الحسنِ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ) ـ: إيّاكَ والتَّغايُرَ في غيرِ مَوضِعِ الغَيرَةِ، فإنَّ ذلكَ يَدعُو الصَّحيحَةَ مِنهُنَّ إلَى السَّقَمِ، ولكن أحكِمْ أمرَهُنَّ فإن رَأيتَ عَيباً فَعَجِّلِ النَّكيرَ علَى‏الكبيرِوالصغيرِ.

10– Imam Ali (AS) said in his will to his son, al-Hasan (AS), ‘Beware of being overpossessive [of your wife] in a situation that does not necessitate it, for verily that will lead a wife of sound character from among them to become weak. Rather judge them carefully so that when you see a fault, you hasten your reproach of it, both major and minor [faults].’[Bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 214, no. 1]
 

11ـ الإمامُ عليٌّ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): غَيرَةُ المرأةِ كُفرٌ، وغَيرَةُ الرجُلِ إيمانٌ.

11– Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘A woman’s overpossessiveness is [tantamount to] infidelity, whereas a man’s overpossessiveness is [part of his] faith.’[Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 124]
 

12ـ الإمامُ الباقرُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): غَيرَةُ النِّساءِ الحَسَدُ، والحَسَدُ هو أصلُ الكُفرِ، إنّ النِّساءَ إذا غِرْنَ غَضِبنَ، وإذا غَضِبنَ كَفَرنَ إلاّ المُسلِماتِ مِنهُنَّ .

12– Imam al-Baqir (AS) said, ‘Women’s overpossessiveness is jealousy, and jealousy is the root of infidelity. Verily when women are overpossessive, they become enraged, and when they are enraged, they disbelieve, except the Muslim women from among them.’[al-Kafi, v. 5, p. 505, no. 4]
 

13ـ الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): لا غَيرَةَ في الحَلالِ .

13– Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘There is no jealous possessiveness [warranted] in what is lawful …’[al-Kafi, v. 5, p. 537, no. 1]