Marriage and Its Proprieties

Man La Yahdoraho Al-Fakih- Sheikh Al-Sadouq vol.3 p.551:

Abou Saeed Al-Khedri said: "The Messenger of Allah (pbuhp) recommended in his will to Ali Bin Abi Talib (pbuh), saying: "O Ali, when your bride enters your home, take her slippers off when she sits down and wash her feet. Pour water from the door of your house until the furthest end of your house, for if you do that, Allah shall banish from your home seventy thousand kinds of poverty, bring into it seventy thousand kinds of blessings and bestow upon it seventy thousand mercies that shall flicker above the bride's head until she receives blessings from every corner of your house and she shall be protected from insanity, leprosy and albinism as long as she lives in that house. Moreover, forbid the bride in her first week to consume the following four: dairy products, vinegar, coriander and citric apples." So, Ali (pbuh) said: "O Messenger of Allah, why should I forbid her to consume these four things?" He (pbuhp) said: "It is because the uterus becomes sterile and cools from conceiving due to these four things. Verily, a straw mat in a corner of the house is better than a woman who does not give birth." Thus, Ali (pbuh) said: "O Messenger of Allah, what is wrong with vinegar so that she should be forbidden to consume it?" He (pbuhp) said: "If she menstruated after eating vinegar, she shall not be purified from her period completely. Coriander excites menstruation in her stomach and makes her delivery difficult and citric apples stop her menstruation and thus she will be ill." Thereafter, he (pbuhp) said: "O Ali, do not copulate with your wife in the beginning, middle and at the end of a month, for insanity, leprosy and stupidity shall rush to her and her offspring. O Ali, do not copulate with your wife in the afternoonbecause if you conceive an offspring at that time, he will be cross-eyed and the Devil rejoices at seeing strabismus in humans. O Ali, do not speak when copulating because if you conceive an offspring, you will be at risk of having a mute one. O Ali, one should not look into his woman's vagina. One should look away when copulating, for looking into the vagina leads to blindness in the offspring to be conceived. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman, lusting for the woman of someone elsebecause I fear thatif you conceive a offspring, he will turn out to be a hermaphrodite or a female-like insane person. O Ali, he who is in bed in the state of impurity (due to ejaculation) with his woman must not read the Quran because I fear that a fire will descend from the sky and burn them. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman but when having a cloth and your wife having another, and do not wipe with the same cloth so that one lust will not fall on another and thus cause enmity between you and lead to separation and divorce. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman in a standing position, for it is the doing of the donkeys and if you conceive an offspring, he will be a bed wetter just as the donkeys that urinate in everyplace. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman on the eve of Eid Al-Adha (Greater Bairam), for if you conceive an offspring, he will have six or four fingers. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman under a fruitful tree, for if you conceive an offspring, he will turn out to be an executioner and killer. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman in the light when the sun is in its brightest, only if you drape something that will conceal you, for if you conceive an offspring, he will continue to live in misery and poverty until he dies. O Ali, do not copulate with your woman at the time between Athan (The Call to Prayer) and Iqama, for if you conceive an offspring, he will be keen on shedding blood. O Ali, when your wife is pregnant, do not copulate with her unless you have cleansed yourself with Wodou', for if you conceive an offspring, he will be blind-hearted and tightfisted. O Ali, do not copulate with your wife in the mid of Shaaban Month, for if you conceive an offspring, he will have a mole on his face. O Ali, do not copulate with your wife at its end, when there are two days left of it, for if you conceive an offspring, he will be an aid for the oppressors and a group of people will be doomed by his hands. O Ali, do not copulate with your wife on the rooftops of buildings, for if you conceive an offspring, he will be a pretentious deceiving hypocrite. O Ali, if you decide to travel, do not copulate with your wife at that night, for if you conceive an offspring, he will spend his money wrongfully." Thereafter, the Messenger of Allah (pbuhp) read this: {Lo! The squanderers were ever brothers of the devils.} "O Ali, do not copulate with your wife if you want to travel for three days and nights, for if you conceive an offspring, he will be an advocate of every oppressor against you. O Ali, you should copulate on the eve of Monday, for if you conceive an offspring, he will be a memorizer of the Quran and will be pleased by what Allah Almighty has destined. O Ali, if you copulate with your wife on the eve of Tuesday and conceive an offspring, martyrdom will be bestowed upon him after testifying that there is no God but Allah and that Mohammad is the Messenger of Allah. Allah will not torment him with the polytheists and he will be pleasant scented, merciful, openhanded and will have a tongue purified from backbiting, lying and slandering. O Ali, if you copulate with your wife on the eve of Thursday and conceive an offspring, he will be one of the rulers or one of the scholars. Moreover, if you copulate with her on a Thursday at noon and conceive an offspring, the Devil will never approach him and he will grow old and remain righteous. Allah will bestow upon him as well soundness in his religion and in his earthly life. O Ali, If you copulate with her on Friday eve and conceive an offspring, he will be an eloquent speaker and if you copulate with her on a Friday afternoon and conceive an offspring, he will be a prominent notable scholar and if you copulate with her on a Friday eve after dusk, the offspring you conceive will likely be one of the Abdal (The Pious Ones) if Allah, the Most High, wills. O Ali, do not copulate with your wife at the first hour of the night, for if you conceive an offspring, he may be a sorcerer who prefers this earthly world over the Last Realm. O Ali, remember my will as I remembered it from Jibra'eel (pbuh).""

 

Al-Mahasen- Ahmad Bin Mohammad Bin Khaled Al-Barqi vol.2 p.321:

Abou Abdellah (pbuh) reported from his forefathers (pbut) that it is disapproved for a man to copulate with his woman when she is menstruating, for if he copulates with her and they have a child, he will either be leper or albinic. Thus, he will be the only one to blame." He (pbuh) also said: "It is disapproved for a man to copulate with his wife after he has had a wet dream until he bathes by Ghosl from the wet dream. For if he does copulate, if he begets a child, he will mentally ill. Thus, he will be the only one to blame."

 

Bihar Al-Anwar- Al-Allama Al-Majlesi vol.100 p.287:

The Prince of Believers (pbuh) said: "If one wants to copulate with his wife, he should not rush her, for women have needs. If one saw a woman whom he liked, he should copulate with his wife, for his wife has what he saw. He should not allow the Devil to enter his heart by any means, so he must look away. However, if he has no wife, he should pray a Salat of Two Rik'as, greatly thank Allah, send prayers upon the Prophet and his Household (pbut) and then plead Allah to descend some of His bounty. For, He shall, by His Grace, enrich him. When one wants to copulate with his wife, he should speak little, for speaking at this time leads to mutism. One must not look into his wife's vagina, for he might see what he dislikes and this leads to blindness. When one wants to copulate with his wife, he should say: "O Allah, She is Halal to me by Your Order and I have accepted her in Your Trust, so if you bestowed a child upon me from her, allow him to be a sound male and do not allow the Devil to have his way to him or have a share of him.""

 

Bihar Al-Anwar- Al-Allama Al-Majlesi vol.65 p.54:

Abou Abdellah (pbuh) reported from his forefathers (pbut) that the Prince of Believers (pbuh) said: "If one wants to copulate with his wife, he should be aware of the new moons and full moons, for the Devil seeks a child in these times and the demons seek a share with them, so they come and conceive."


Al-Mahasen- Ahmad Bi Mohammad Bin Khaled Al-Barqi vol.2 p.311:

Abdelrahman Bin Salem reported from his father that he said to Abou Jaafar (pbuh): "Is it disapproved to copulate in certain times even if it is Halal?" He (pbuh) said: "Yes, in the time between dawn and sunrise, the time between sunset and dark, on the day of a solar eclipse, at the night of a lunar eclipse, on the day and at the night of a black wind, red wind and yellow wind and on the day and at the night of an earthquake."